Overcoming Dating Anxiety: Show Your True Self
Many people are nervous on the first few dates and have difficulty relaxing and being themselves. One of the reasons for this is they worry about being judged too quickly. This is because, in today’s dating world, it is often difficult to get past the first date. Many men and women want instant gratification, which is not realistic thinking. This leaves both men and women feeling insecure, questioning what they did wrong when they don’t hear back from someone.
The simple issue here is that playful communication isn’t taking place in the early stages. People are not making a great first impression due to the serious persona they project. We all have a few insecurities, so it can be difficult to show some transparency to someone you’re just meeting.
Authenticity is the important component that seems to be missing. The date is not relaxed and the atmosphere seems guarded and often rehearsed. Today, many people aren’t willing to wait to discover who someone truly is. They just walk away without a word. Showing the fun side of who you are is imperative on the first few dates!
Dating is a journey of self-discovery.
Each experience should teach you something that will bring you closer to finding your person. If you’re not genuine about who you are, it eventually becomes exhausting to play that role. When your facade is discovered, things don’t usually end well.
It’s not pleasant to fall in love with someone, then, you find out they aren’t who you thought they were. Sadly, this is a regular occurrence, and that is why building trust is so important when you are dating. Jumping in quickly and not being real about who you are seldom ends well. This behavior takes you further way from finding your person.
When you show your true self, you create an honest foundation.
This enables the person you are dating to be their authentic self. Being genuine attracts the right people to you. They like you for who you are, not who you’re pretending to be. That is a great first start to any potential partnership. It also lets you be comfortable in your own skin and reduces dating anxiety because you’re relaxed.
It is so much easier to have a communicative conversation when you’re being open and honest. You’re not hiding behind a wall. You’re showing who you are by promoting self-acceptance. This automatically manifests confidence, which is a very attractive trait. When you’re being authentic, there’s no BS. There is nothing fake about how you come across, which makes it easier to create deeper connections.
Date people you have things in common with. This creates a communicative rapport early on.
In some cases, people might feel they have known someone for a lifetime after just a few weeks of knowing them. This happens when you’re both on the same page and being genuine about who you are. There are no games, and there are very few questions when you’re being yourself.
It is a wonderful feeling when you meet someone who has a strong sense of self-worth. This allows you to relax, and be yourself as well. We all want to be loved for who we are, not who we pretend to be.
If you’re having difficulty feeling comfortable and confident in being your authentic self, it is important to get some counselling. This can help you learn the importance of self-love and showing vulnerability to a potential partner. It is imperative to be emotionally available and authentically comfortable to give and accept love in your life.
Sybersue xo <3
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