Not for you, that old and toxic possessive narrative. You are modern. Mature. Open-minded. Capable of sharing even. Really really capable of sharing. You want to share so very much. In fact, you want to be cuckolded. Nothing would make you happier or hotter. So why is it so hard to find someone as down to be shared as you want to share?
Today’s column comes courtesy of a reader who is struggling to fulfill their lifelong fantasy of being cuckolded and is seeking some tips. Do they have a chance of getting cheated on? How does one convince their partner to stray? Or do things like that only happen in Fantasyland? The Dirty Talk Advice Column has some answers!
“My wife and I have been together for 23 years now, and while she is generally pretty open-minded and down to try most things, I can’t convince her to try cuckolding. I keep telling her that I love her and respect her, and how hot I would find it if she picked someone up at a bar and went home with them for the night…but no dice. She might really like it if she could just relax a little! How can I convince her to at least TRY it?—I Want To Be Cuckolded
CHEAT ON ME PLEASE! 
At a surface level, Cuckolded, your lifelong fantasy of your partner banging others might seem harmless. Mature and evolved even. Where your fantasy is struggling to get off the ground because it involves other people and other people aren’t always cooperative with our desires—even if we’ve been married to them for 23 years.
There are any number of reasons why someone might have a cuckolding fetish, from a desire to be humiliated to the thrill of the taboo. Some people like the risk of possible pregnancy, and some like the reclaiming of their partner after straying. Sometimes it is the thrill of ownership as if your partner is a fancy sports car: “You can take ’em for a spin! Handles well, right? Very nice. Have fun but you don’t get to keep.” Bi-curious people not quite ready to explore might enjoy “cleaning up” after the fact, using their partner’s activities to get closer to something they want to do themselves.
Your letter to me doesn’t specify your specific reasons behind wanting to be cuckolded, and maybe you don’t even know yourself other than “it’s hot” but your fantasy needs someone else’s body to work. While cuckolding is a fetish that all genders can enjoy, statistically it is something that more men are into than women. When there is such an imbalance, it means there are more men looking to be cuckolded than there are women willing to go find randoms to bang.
RISK FACTORS
When men fantasize about their partner hooking up with others, that fantasy rarely, if ever, factors in the risks that women have to consider. The fact that her pleasure is in no way guaranteed. Potential societal shaming. The risk of pregnancy. Higher risk of STIs. Even physical harm if something goes wrong. Every single time a woman is intimate with a man, her mental checklist involves things men rarely need to consider.
You can’t understand why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with strangers to turn you on, but what you are asking her to do is potentially risk getting hurt or even worse if the date goes poorly. The majority of cuckolding fetishes also involve come in some way, which means no protection and a roll of the STI dice for her.
That’s a big ask. A potentially very big ask.
RESPECT THE NO
There is such a gender imbalance around this particular fetish that there is an entire market on how to convince wives and partners to change their minds. There are all sorts of manuals and websites and courses that claim that they can teach you how to “persuade” your wife to become willing to fuck other people. Save your money. If you buy the instruction manual or course, the main thing you will get, other than less money in your bank account, is an upset wife if she ever finds your manual.
All other potential complications aside, if your wife has told you that she doesn’t want to cuckold you, then she doesn’t want to. End of story. Just because her banging randoms is hot for you personally doesn’t mean it is hot for her. When we pressure our partners to perform activities they don’t really want to do, resentment builds. Resentment is a dry rot that destroys relationships. A relationship with a foundation of spreading dry rot eventually topples and falls over. Is continually trying to talk your wife into something they don’t actually want to do worth relationship dry rot?
Only you can answer that question I Want To Be Cuckolded. Best of luck!
Keep it Kinky My Friends,
RDG
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